I. Introduction
When do you feel most at Peace? I personally feel at Peace when I am completely calm and still, such as in a Meditation, or when I feel sufficiently prepared for a particular matter. In both scenarios, the underlying feeling of Peace is present when I am either in control or when I have things under control.
For me, no control means chaos, and chaos means no Peace. But even then, there is still the reality that things will not always be in or within my control. This idea makes me feel both uneasy, but also relieved at the same time because I now understand that releasing control actually allows me to separate ties to any particular outcomes, which ultimately brings me Peace. I explain this below:
II. Letting Go and Redefining Control
You may have heard of the very wise phrase, “let go.” Letting go essentially means that you are surrendering control which can be challenging because it indicates that you are presently attached to or holding onto something of personal value. This may be a project, an opinion, an outcome, etc.
However, it is helpful to reframe the idea of letting go, which is ultimately the concept of losing control, as instead representing this sense of gaining control. You now choose to stop worrying, planning, and changing whatever it is that you are holding onto. You now decide that if something is outside of your control, or if it no longer serves you in a positive way, to let it go!
Moreover, to be content with whatever outcome occurs, is a powerful place to be in. It means that while you are invested, you are not defeated by any unfavorable results. Thus in order to accept what “is” you must decide to let go of any expectations or hopes for what “could be” or “should be.” So much time and energy is spent when trying to control the way that things go. Allowing for things as they are, as well as how they naturally come and go, brings inner Peace.
However, I know that this is often easier said than done. But there is true wisdom in this concept because when we hold onto things that should be released, not only do we miss out on our inner Peace, we also preclude opportunities for valuable assistance and collaboration. I often commend creatives who allow for external guidance and support on projects because it can be uncomfortable to allow others to take away some of your creative control. The same goes for workplace perfectionists. Yet, when you do surrender and trust the process (and I say “process” because it may take trial and error), you will eventually arrive at Peace, where things are still under your control, but now they are just in someone else’s hands!
Side Note: With AI on the rise, it may become increasingly less burdensome and ego-bruising to ask for help, and therefore work-life balance may become more widespread and achievable!
III. Conclusion
As we surrender to the reality of what is, we allow for inner Peace to thrive, even despite external chaos. I now recognize that holding onto something that is out of my control, for the sake of being in control, will always bring me chaos. I have to continuously remember to let go, and essentially let God (but that is a topic for another blog post), for everlasting Peace.
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